Matching is easy. Scheduling is the hard part.
Get in the same room. beta
You share your schedule. They share theirs. when&where turns that into a plan with one easy click.
The shortest distance between a match and a meetup.
You don't need another grid of faces. You need a way to actually meet up.
Tell us when you're free
A guided interview maps your typical week — work, sleep, commitments. Then marks when you can host and when you can travel. Takes about 3 minutes.
Connect with your people
Search by email, phone, or Instagram handle. Share an invite link directly, or order cards with your personal referral code. Stop dopamine-scrolling for someone who's free right now — plan ahead instead.
Mutual time lights up
The calendar shows when you're both free and the logistics work (hosting + travel). Click a slot, send an invite, done.
The end of "sorry, something came up."
Every dating app lets people waste your time with zero consequences. We built the first accountability layer for hookup culture.
Meet the Flake-o-Meter.
Every user gets a reliability score. Show up? It goes up. Ghost someone? It drops. Cancel with notice? Barely a scratch. It's not punitive — it's honest. And it's visible to everyone you connect with, right next to your name.
For the first time, flaking has a reputation cost. Not a ban, not a penalty — just transparency. The people who actually show up get to prove it.
Flakes get exposed, not banned
No one gets kicked off the platform. But your track record is visible. A pattern of no-shows speaks for itself. People can decide who's worth their evening.
Reliable people shine
A "Rock Star" badge means this person shows up. Every time. It's earned, not bought, not gamed. When you see gold next to someone's name, you know the date is actually happening.
Forgiving by design
Life happens. Cancel with two hours' notice and the hit is minimal. Old flakes decay over time. The meter measures patterns, not one bad Tuesday.
"On Grindr someone can waste your entire evening and do it again tomorrow with a brand new conversation. On when&where, that shit follows you."
Built different. Priced honestly.
Grindr, Scruff, and Sniffies profit by keeping you lonely and addicted to screen time. We actually get you laid.
The other apps
when&where
Turning "maybe sometime" into "Thursday at 8. Your place."
Smart calendar
Your weekly template generates concrete availability. One-time overrides for unusual weeks. All matching computed in your browser — fast and private.
Host + travel logic
Not just "when are you free?" but "can you host or travel?" Mutual slots only appear when the logistics actually work.
Direct messages
Quick coordination chat built right in. No app-switching. Messages auto-delete after 14 days because we're a scheduling tool, not a texting platform.
Works with everything
Connected on Grindr? Scruff? Instagram? Great. Add them here by email or handle. One place to coordinate with everyone.
Privacy-first design
We're not here to mine your data or keep you addicted to screen time. Availability matching runs in your browser. We never see it.
Every screen has an end
No infinite scroll. No notification badges. No dark patterns designed to keep you staring at your phone. Open, coordinate, close. Done.